Will the real Sheryl come on down….

Yes over the post month the true Sheryl has come out. Over the past 18 months of separation Sheryl has been 1/2 a jerk over a lot of things. Over the last month she has been a total jerk.

She wanted Hayden’s scrapbooks because she made them. I told her I was going to make copies of the pages first. She demanded a time frame so I said at least 30 days. 30 days later she texts “It has been a month since you said you needed to scan Hayden’s albums. What time my I pick them up? She doesn’t ask if I need more time or if I have them done. Just demands, when can I pick them up.

Instead of stooping to her level, I complimented her handy work making the albums and that I would try to do as much as I could over the weekend. She seemed fine with it but added at the end “as long as you follow through with that plan” She has always added digs to her comments. Over the years I tried to help her write her letters so that they didn’t make the other person offensive. It is a trait that she despises in her mother, yet that is what she does to others as well.

Over the past month I was told to make sure I add a tip to the dog groomer, etc. I’m glad we are still married and she needs to tell me how to spend my money.

Hayden and her have been struggling as well. Last week they had a blow out fight. Hayden had his game was taken away because he didn’t respond to her texts quick enough when at my house. He had made a deal with her that he would. From the messages he showed me, he wanted to play at her house and made the promise. Well he lost it the next time after. Hayden wanted to play his game and she kept saying no, so one says yes the other says no. He hit the wall and a couple of frames fell, didn’t sound like anything broke, but that does not matter. He should not be hitting the walls, period. Well one thing led to another and she went up to check on him 45 minutes later and he apparently hit her, in the eye. That is a no no, no matter what. So he lost his game another night, so it got worse.

I was at work and starting getting texts from Hayden, begging me to come get him. Sheryl started to call me and text me saying she was going to call the cops for him hitting her. She mentioned that Maria jumped in and stared hitting Hayden as well. So I asked if she was going to have the cops talk to Maria as well. I was told “WHY?”, I explained that she cannot hit him either. She wasn’t defending herself, that she was attacking Hayden. She scoffed at me and that notion.

She had asked if I could come over to talk to Hayden. I told her I would talk to her after work about all this. Later she initially said no that I didn’t need to come over but later when I inquired if they had talked yet, She said they were eating but to come over so he would try to stay calm. I told her I would be a mediator to let each of them talk with out stepping over the other. Sheryl was concerned that I was going to take Hayden’s side. I think she was surprised that I asked Hayden questions like would what he did be okay at my house, hitting, swearing, etc….he said no. Things were going well or decent until Maria burt about at Hayden about him hitting Sheryl. I told her that she could get in as much trouble as well for hitting Hayden. Sheryl quickly said “you need to leave” In any predicament Sheryl has always sided with Maria over Hayden. I got up and Hayden instantly went downstairs. I was concerned he was leaving. He said he was going with me. He cried for a good 15 minutes in the garage about wanting to go home with me. I just kept hugging him and telling him to calm down, that I could not take him home and that I was sorry. But it was Sheryl’s week and he needed to remain there. I texted Sheryl later to see how he was doing and she said good. Needless To Say I went to be at 9pm that night, I was totally drained, seeing my son in soooo much pain and not being able to do more to comfort him.