Ex-Wives are the worst

My Ex seems to not be able to let me go. She is always commenting to my son about me, or things I do. My son will complain to her and she will comment that I’m a horrible person and not a real parent, etc. Yet who is housing our son, raising him, helping with his needs? Not the lady that moved to the next state to be closer to a felon that she meet while he was in prison.

Don’t get me wrong, the guy has seemed to have changed his life, he made a horrible mistake when he was 17. But I just want to tell him to RUN, Run away as fast as he can.

Our life had its good times and it’s bad times. She left me just before our 10yr anniversary. But returned a few months later after watching a TV show and realizing, that I had only been trying to love her unconditionally. She would always asked me, if she gained 100 lbs would I still love her, my answer was always YES! I loved her!! She would make comments, what about if I looked like XXXXX, a name I will not mention because this woman had struggled with her weight, but had surgery which had done her wonders.

Then a couple of years later, she received the news that she had breast cancer. She had more struggles with that then I realized. There were times we would argue and she would make comments “what? you want me to tell you that I feel like crap?” YES, I’m your husband, I’m supposed to be the one you would tell this stuff too. She would always say she was “fine”. After my mother died and Sheryl was cancer free, she moved out once again. He main reason, was that I was not supportive enough. Yes I was there for every surgery, most doctor and chemo treatments. But I should have helped her clean the house more, etc.

I would try to clean the house over the years, but every time I would attempt it, my work was never good enough. She would do the same rooms again. So, I left the cleaning to her. She would complain about how her mother would have them clean all the time, yet that is what she would do to our family as well.

So just after a few months what should have been a great 15yr milestone, we stood in a courtroom to dissolve our marriage. Sheryl was cordial and didn’t ask for anything crazy. We basically split everything 50/50. Years later she would take to use that against me. “remember that I didn’t ask for any of your 401k”, yeah that is because I was taking on the debt of our house, with the market we owed a lot more than it was worth. The judge even commented in court, that since I was taking on the debt that would have been split between us, that it was fair not to take any of my 401k.

I find it funny how we remember what we want, and not the actual truth in matters like this.

The recent Johnny Depp/Heard trial about abuse brought up a lot feelings about my past marriage. How my Ex would comment that I would hit her, that I “had my hands around her neck once”. Yet when you look at the actual facts, she was the abuser in our marriage. When we would argue, Sheryl could mock and mimic my actions, yet when I would mimic her, she would charge me and start swilling most times. I would not to do it, since I knew it would trigger her. It was an example of how it was ok for her to do something, but not for someone else to do the same actions. The “hands” incident is a perfect example of her lies. It was an argument that turned into a fight where she was swinging at me, I finally pushed her up agains the wall to stop her from shining and hitting me. My hands here not on her neck, but on her upper torso pushing here against the wall. There were a few other warning signs early in our marriage. I believe it was before we were married, I got behind her and put my arm around her so she would stop hitting me. She bit me really hard on my wrist. For weeks you would see the purple teeth impressions on my wrist. Another time was when she started waving a box cutter at me. I did not feel she would actually cut me, but it was enough for our son, to hide in a closet and call 911, he was scared. I talked to the officer on the phone and said I was not fearful, but they wanted to spot by to make sure. My son and I sat on the steps and waited for the police to arrive. I let him know he did the right thing, and I was fine. But these are the examples throughout our marriage. She would attack and hit me, but I loved her and didn’t think she would ever do me harm that I would be concerned.

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